How To Be Human Enough To… grieve (part 3)
I want to talk about the deep sadness that I have over the gap between my potential and what I have actually been able to achieve. For me this disparity has been so difficult to come to terms with.
How to be Human Enough To… grieve (Part 2)
The consequences of coming at things from a place of believing you are broken. I was recently on a course
How to Be Human Enough to… grieve the life you thought you had. Part 1.
In a deeply personal reflection, the author shares her journey of processing grief related to her unrecognised needs.
Misunderstood since childhood, she navigates the aftermath of refusing to trust her body’s signals, resulting in a life marred by self-blame, exhaustive efforts to follow societal rules, and overwhelming challenges with motherhood and self-care. Her struggles include coping with autoimmune disease, vocal cord damage, and past academic and functional hardships due to a lack of support and awareness—haunting her decades later.
How to Be Human Enough to… make time your friend
Living with ADHD impacts how I perceive and manage time, often feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Coping includes routines and habits for stability and reminders to aid memory. Importance is placed on self-regulation and care, as stress undermines all strategies. Emphasising the value of intentional living, the key is finding a personal sense of need rather than conforming to external expectations, shifting to see time as a friend.
How To Be Human Enough To… thrive as an introvert
After forty years of people-pleasing and self-neglect, a coaching course sparked a person’s journey to self-discovery. An existential crisis highlighted their performative existence, but coaching and a global pandemic offered clarity and rejuvenation. Despite regressing into old patterns, opportunities and an ADHD diagnosis led to self-love, peace, and a true understanding of personal needs. Writing, coaching, and new self-care habits are now leading them towards a fulfilled life.
How To Be Human Enough To… endure the ADHD medication crisis
After a life-changing ADHD diagnosis, I’ve faced a five-month delay in receiving NHS treatment due to a global medication shortage. Nonetheless, I persist with honed routines, balancing a demanding job and family life, while dispensing with shame over my fluctuating capabilities. Currently, self-care and hope sustain me as I await medication availability, employing rest and self-compassion to cope with the challenges.
How to Be Human Enough to… Explore Your Passions
A multi-passionate individual, devoted to creativity and constant learning, shares poetry inspired by the serene Scottish countryside and early morning skies. While combating the overwhelm of modern life, this person seeks joy in nature and moments of beauty, grounding themselves through walks with their dogs and embracing a philosophy of belonging and self-acceptance.
How to be Human Enough to… let others help
Cultivating independence and resilience, often in response to a world that bombards them with criticism, neurodivergent individuals like the author develop a guarded self-reliance. With time, they may realize the need to open up and share burdens, despite the challenge of asking for help. Embracing vulnerability with boundaries, the author is learning to connect with others more genuinely, finding strength in shared experiences and finally uncovering a truer sense of self.
How to be Human Enough to…be consistent
The writer shares their personal struggle with forming consistent habits and how this challenge, exacerbated by unrecognized ADHD, led to exhaustion and a sense of chaos. They discuss the pressure to meet family needs and the realization that attempts to mimic neurotypical habit-building strategies failed due to overlooking their neurodiversity. The solution was making tiny, manageable changes, like leaving medications out and choosing simple tasks to prevent morning decision paralysis. By accepting their unique needs and making small daily changes, they’ve created a sustainable routine, resulting in improved mood, self-care, and the ability to connect with others.
How to be Human Enough to…meditate
For people with ADHD the idea of learning to meditate can be daunting at best and terrifying at worst. Some
How To be Human Enough to… Feel All your Feelings
I am a deeply feeling person that is wired to absorb information in a world that thrives on stoking outrage,
How to Be Human Enough To… Just Write
Words are everything to me. A hyperlexic, preschool reader, they were my first source of connection and escape. Books fascinated
How to Be Human Enough to… Lift the Mask
I’ve not been writing as much as I wanted to over the last few months. I’ve been taking time to
How to be Human Enough to…deal with an ADHD diagnosis
So much is written in the press about women like me flocking to get a diagnosis of ADHD. The waiting
How to be Human Enough to… enjoy solitude
Do you struggle to balance solitude and loneliness? For someone who often feels lonely the thought of solitude can be a bit tricky. Particularly for me as I’m also an introvert.